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With this post I would like to share what I am experiencing these days with my daughters.

My daughters, aged 6 and 3 and a half, love each other very much. They sleep together, co-sleep, and share lots of kisses and cuddles. They share a lot of things, especially when one of them isn't there. For example, "I'll leave this muffin for my sister who isn't here right now..."

But there are other times too. Lately, they've been fighting a lot. The 3-year-old wants to differentiate herself from the other, like saying, "I exist, I think, I act, I'm different from you, and I don't do what you tell me, and besides, I can bother you to see if you get angry." She's looking for boundaries (a few months ago, it was more me who's looking for boundaries; now it's her sister's turn). The 6-year-old wants to be the older sister, like, "I'm in charge and you have to do what I say." She's the older sister. She gets really angry if the other does something she shouldn't have, and she gets angry disproportionately. We use the colors Red for really angry, Orange for angry but she can still manage it, and Green for everything is okay. When she gets angry now, she goes from green to red, and red can last ages, destroying everything in sight.

I have to be honest, maybe I haven't handled it very well, I'm getting even more angry... My main problem is seeing that they treat each other badly and I don't want to see it, if I could escape or change it with a magic wand..! Clearly I know that it's normal for them to be angry with each other, and that they are each experiencing their limits and affirming themselves as people etc... but it's very hard, I love them both!

So yesterday I decided!

I started with Acceptance™ yesterday and I feel better. I know it's only been for two days, but I'm doing better.
Normally when my daughters get really angry with each other I react badly… And then what I need is ACCEPTANCE on my part clearly without letting them kill each other physically or verbally without me getting even angrier because I would like this not to happen… and yesterday and today in moments of crisis, and we have had quite a few😅, I have managed not to get angry, to be calm but at the same time firm.

I've started putting on Acceptance in the morning 2-3 times a day as a perfume and on my heart. I admit that I've also put on Stress Away a couple of times, but I used to do this before... the difference is that I no longer feel this helplessness when they fight, and I react better when it's time to separate them and listen to them.

Clearly, essential oils don't solve everything; much depends on us, but it's widely recognized that aromas can influence our emotional state.

Acceptance™ (Coriander, Geranium, Bergamot, Frankincense, Sandalwood, Blue Tansy, Neroli, Ylang Ylang) stimulates the mind with its specially blended oils to enhance feelings of acceptance—of ourselves and others—despite perceived barriers. This blend also helps overcome denial and procrastination. It can be diffused or inhaled directly from the bottle. You can add 2 to 4 drops to a tablespoon of whole milk or salt and add it to a bath as it's about to fill.
Apply 1-2 drops of essential oil on the heart and thymus, behind the ears,
wrists, neck and temples.

Stress Away™ (Copaiba, Lime, Cedarwood, Vanilla, Ocotea, and Lavender) is a natural solution created to combat the common stress that creeps into our daily lives. Besides being stress-reducing, as the name suggests, it can help reduce mental rigidity, restore balance, help induce relaxation, and reduce occasional nervous tension. Aromatic:  You can use the diffuser or inhale directly from the bottle. Topic: Shake well and apply to wrists and back of neck as desired.

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